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Coaching.com ISSN: 1530-4334 Also, the website is being updated (groooowing!) and all the past articles are archived there should you wish to read them or pass them along to others. Just please remember to credit my name and web address. You may have noticed in the heading above that I now have an ISSN number. That means I am officially registered with The Library of Congress and my work cannot be copied without consent or credit to my name. Thank you for respecting this ... in turn, I will continue to respect your privacy and good name. This works out nicely for all of us! :) With Love, In coaching my clients, it is almost inevitable that the subject of romantic relationships comes up. People come to coaching for a variety of reasons, whether it be to grow a business, find peace and balance, time management, to reach specific goals or build self-esteem. I can seldom remember a time, however, when we did not do some coaching around relationships. Love is core part of who we are and it is affected by all the other things that go on in our lives. Love is a tricky business and one that most of us struggle with from time to time. I am very pro-relationships, but I am pro-HEALTHY-relationships. I love to see people truly happy and AUTHENTIC in who they are. Having a special partner to enhance life is the ultimate! It is vital to be supported in this way and to support the person you love. If you have never had this type of love, I
encourage you find it and not So what can we do on the road to love that will increase our chances of being with 'the one' or having our current partner be 'the one' ? Here are some things I recommend that you insist on in your journey: 1. Understand that you can admire the qualities and character of someone, but it is really HOW THEY MAKE YOU FEEL that is most important. Do they bring out the best in you? Does your heart feel full when you think of them? Have you ever been with someone who was a fine upstanding person, but they didn't make you like a million bucks? Who is the sunshine in your life? We all admire traits like honesty and humor, but if the person doesn't light you up, do you think you will you ever have 'the magic'? 2. Understand, also, that OTHERS TREAT US THE WAY WE ALLOW THEM TO. I like to tell people that I see no reason for them to treat me any different from, say, the Queen. :) I say this jokingly, but in reality I do treat people very well and I expect the same in return. The key is clear communication. This can be challenging for some folks. In coaching, I often focus on identifying what a clients NEEDS are. What is it that you must have in your life to be your very best? This question stumps most people. When you become aware and can answer that question, life becomes much easier because you can begin to tell others. Caution: once identified, work on getting your needs met in a variety of ways. To expect that one person will meet ALL your needs is not realistic or practical. If you can teach them to UNDERSTAND your needs though (and vice versa), there is much less conflict. It's not so intimidating to say, "You know, Honey, the way I am wired is that I have this need for ________ (examples: touch, intimacy, adventure, quiet time, etc.) Do you think you could support me in making sure I get some of that? And, by the way, what is something you need that I can help you with?" That isn't so hard to say, is it??? This teaches others what you need and how to treat you. Special note to men: If you are not sure about any of this or what women like in a relationship, I have an article written by a real, live guy called WHAT WOMEN WANT. Just email me at Beth@BrightSideCoaching.com with that title in the subject line and I will send it to you. :) 3. Understand too that in order to have 'the
magic', you must also be Each person is unique and has to determine what
he/she needs in a Enjoy your summer, your loved ones and stay safe!
Beth Pugh is a professional life coach who wants you to create a DELIGHTFUL life because she believes that the most EXTRAORDINARY soul to love is your own! Visit www.BrightSideCoaching.com to learn more. To subscribe to her FREE newsletter called The Bright Side send an email to subscribe@BrightSideCoaching.com with 'subscribe brightside' in the subject line. She also offers a daily tip to brighten your
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